I just read a novel that describe a girl that has "romantic affair" with her old friend although she has a good boyfriend (actually). In the end of the story, she decide to break her relationship with her boyfriend and she is falling in love with her "date". Sound classic yah? But, do you know that is actually describe our situation, our real life?
How many couple in this world suddenly break their marriage because they "find" their soulmate and feel that their marriage is wrong. How many children in this world must see their parent divorce because of the third person? This is like a circle and no one can't stop it if everybody feel that "cheating" is right!
I know about women's feeling. Of course, because i'm a women. But, i've learned about men's feeling since i was in elementary school. I know that everyone dream about the true love. Who is never dreaming the true love? Everyone need it! Women need someone who can understand her. Men needs someone who can become his partner. Because since we were child, we saw Cinderella, Snow White, Sleeping Princess, Beauty and The Beast and many more about the fairytale. Every story told us that the true love is someone who can make us happy forever.
But, c'mon, wake up from our sleeping!
We live in the real life. No one can make us be happy forever because everyday they can make a mistake that can make us to be angry, sad or disappointed. But, it's so pity....some people choose to live in their dream. They feel disappointed when their spouse makes a mistake or maybe has a weakness. They feel sad because they think they've decided a wrong decision. And suddenly the brain says, "Why i married with this person who can't understand me?"
Voila, when we are stress with our marriage, someone around us suddenly very amazing in our eyes. Maybe he is our friend in office, boss, driver, native speaker, student in campus, friend in church, neighbour, leader, client, old friend, and anyone who can make us "being happy". Wow, they look so great. Very handsome, with amazing body (six pack maybe), smell good (suddenly we love their perfume), and we start to compare anything with our spouse.
We feel our heartbeat is more faster when we meet "him". We feel like a teenager who feel love for the first time. We always prepare our make up, fashion and perfume (of course) when we'll meet "him". We try to show that we can do everything in front of "him". And we feel jealous when another women is near "him". We miss "his" message (BB, FB, twitter, email, SMS) and sometimes we make a call for "him".
Suddenly, we forget about our spouse. Just have a little conversation everyday. We feel bore when we have time together. In our eyes, he isn't interest anymore.
Oups! If we feel like that as above, that's WARNING for our relationship! Something wrong with our relationship and please wake up! We must save our relationship. Why? Because remember, romantic affair is not sweet forever!
Why we must save our relationship and run away from romantic affair?
1. Who sows the wind shall reap the storm
Our parent always said to us : Never play with fire because it will "fire" us. It's same with romantic affair. Never play with someone else because it will make a big problem in the future! Maybe our spouse isn't like our boss, but trust me, our spouse is better than our boss (just remember that!)
2. Romantic affair will impact our healthy
Have an experience with romantic affair? I tell you that romantic affair isn't good for our healthy. It will make us can't sleep well and always afraid if another knows what happen between us and our "affair". This condition isn't good for our heartbeat and another organ in our body. Although our spouse makes us sad, angry or disappointed but trust me, romantic affair will impact more dangerously for our healthy than our spouse.
3. Our Family is A Grace
Do you know that family is a grace from God? Nothing place in this world that can make us homey like our home. Because God bless unity. God loves unity. That's why God loves family. Who will brake the grace from God? If we try to brake something good from God, so be careful, because someday God will do something in our life and never hope His blessing, because He loves unity. What has united by God should not be divorced by people!
So, wanna try affair?? Forget it and try to love our spouse with a love from God ^^ Blessing
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